What is Wet and Messy?
Wet and Messy (WAM) is a BDSM practice that involves the use of liquid substances to make sexual activity more erotically pleasing and arousing. As the name implies, the practice of WAM can be very chaotic and disorganized.
The practice of WAM is usually done as a performance. However, some do it to make their sexual activities more exciting and thrilling. Wet and Messy plays often include but not limited to lotion, paint, petroleum, pudding, peanut butter, colored slime, cake batter, raw eggs, shaving foam, whipped cream, hot oil, beer, ketchup, ice cream, and baked beans. The most popular form of WAM is sploshing, in which foods or condiments are poured, thrown, rubbed, or spit on to one another. Urine, stool, sweat, sperm, and squirt are not considered as part of WAM.
Wet and Messy activities do not always include sex, but it can always be incorporated into the play if all parties agreed to do so. Participants can either be naked or on a cosplay. Pure white attires such as a wedding dress, casual clothes, office wear, and schoolgirl uniform can increase the visual appeal of the mess party. The consistency and flow of the liquid also play a crucial role in WAM scenes. It is better for the substance to be slimier or stickier so that it can attach to skin or clothes easier and longer.
Dos, Don’ts & Tips
- It is common for a Dominant/submissive relationship to use Wet and Messy plays to reinforce their roles.
- The submissive may get sexually aroused from the feeling of being victimized or abused while the dominant may experience sexual arousal from the thought of turning clean, attractive individuals into dirty and messy submissive.
- Wet and Messy is a consensual activity.
- All parties involved should have complete knowledge and understanding of the activity.
- All participants should first engage in negotiations and establish contracts before starting with the activity. The contract may contain the rules and limits of the play. It may also include a list of substances that are allowed in the play.
- Some liquid substances can have an adverse reaction to some individuals. The nature of the activity makes it extremely dangerous to slip and fall.
Related Fetishes and Practices
WAM is often done in combination with BDSM scenes and Role-playing. The submissive can be put in some forms of bondage or restraint. It can also be combined with Ravishment, Rape Fantasy, Pet Play, Erotic Humiliation, and Degradation.