What is Voice Play?
Voice Play is a BDSM practice in which a Top uses changes in the tone and volume of the voice to induce specific sexual feelings from the bottom. It is typically practiced to reinforce Dominant/submissive roles.
Changes in the tone and volume of voices may relay different messages and emotions. A friendly-tone can make a person more approachable while an aggressive tone can make a person threatening or scary. The volume of the voice can evoke certain emotions. A loud voice often signifies anger while a soft voice may indicate sweetness or innocence.
Voice play utilizes these characteristics tones and volumes to evoke certain emotional and sexual responses. A whisper to the ear may cause someone to shiver while a loud, threatening voice can make an individual tremble in fear. Voice Play uses auditory stimulations. Sensations from Voice Play can further be increased by applying Sensory Deprivation to the eyes (with blindfold) or nose (masks).
Dos, Don’ts & Tips
- Vanilla players may use soft and friendly-tone of voices to make the activity more sensual and romantic.
- Soft moans, groans, heavy breathing sounds, and mild Dirty Talk can be great auditory stimulants that may cause sexual pleasure.
- BDSM scenes mostly use loud and aggressive tones of voices.
- The dominant vary the tone and volume of their voice to make the submissive more obedient.
- The dominant may issue a command or scold the submissive.
- It is also possible to use a specific word/s that triggers a certain emotional response.
- These ‘trigger’ words can either be appeal strongly to the submissive due to previous memories and experiences.
- If the trigger words are derogatory, the play turns into Verbal Humiliation—a kind of Erotic Humiliation in which the dominant verbally degrades the submissive.
- A male submissive can be subjected to verbal emasculation while female submissive may be humiliated with sexual slurs. A submissive partner can also be called a pet or treated like a child.
- Voice Play is a consensual activity.
- The dominant and the submissive need to establish a set of rules and limits, as well as a safeword or action, before starting the activity.
- The submissive may provide a list of banned words to the dominant.
- The dominant needs to respect the submissive and avoid using banned words.
- Specific words can make a person relive psychological or emotional trauma.
Related Fetishes and Practices
Voice Play is closely related to Auralism—a sexual fetish involving strong sexual attraction to sounds. It can be used as a part of Verbal Humiliation or be combined with Rough Play, Impact Play, and Sensation Play.