What is a Sub?
The term sub is short for “submissive” and refers to the person who gives up control or authority to a dominant partner for a duration of an intimate activity or all the time. This term is closely related to BDSM practices, specifically D/s or Dominance and Submission.
A sub takes pleasure in being dominated while a dom (dominant) prefers to take charge. A person who can take on either role is called a switch.
There are various types of submission depending on the preference of the sub. Some depict their submission through obedience while others would allow their dom to perform acts on them alone.
Male and Female Submission
Subs may exercise submission with a dominant male or a dominant female (also called a ‘dominatrix’). The sub may be restrained through bondage, treated like a sex object, or even humiliated. Male subs can be subjected to cock and ball torture, pegging, cuckoldry, and forced feminization among others. Female subs, although can be subjected to similar practices, are more common and more susceptible to objectification.
There are many variations to a D/s relationship. Some practices that are commonly infused with D/s themes are:
- Sexual Roleplay- In sexual roleplay, the participants create a scene that they want to set their intimate activity in. This may include various costumes or even toys to further the excitement. By using these, a sub may be subjected to actions wherein they have to hand the control for them over to their dominant partner.
- Crossdressing and Feminization- In relation to role-playing, D/s can include dressing up as another sex. This is very common among males. For feminization, a male dom can refer to a male sub’s genitals as female genitalia or simply treat them as if they are female.
- Domestic Servitude- This can be related to role-playing as well. Domestic servitude may also be referred to as slavery. The sub will be subjected to doing the bidding of the dom. Subs are not allowed to defy their doms in this scene.
- Dehumanization and Objectification- Subs can be treated as animals or objects in this activity. They may be treated like pets (like puppy play) or objects (like human furniture).