What is Sadism?
Sadism refers to the tendency of deriving pleasure or sexual gratification from the infliction of, suffering, and humiliation of others. This pain can take the form of mental, physical, or emotional torture of others, specifically submissives or slaves in the BDSM community. Sadism does not have to be sexual in nature but it may contain a sexual element for the Dom, sub, or both.
The Origins of Sexual Sadism
In 1814, Comte Donatien Alphonse François Marquis de Sade, a French soldier and pervert, came up with the term “sadism” as the intentional infliction of pain on a love object as a means of sexual release.
Engaging in sadism or the intentional inflicting of pain on others to obtain sexual release can be traced to practices of fertility rites, acts of worship, and religious demonstrations. In modern times, sadism has taken on many negative connotations. Practiced in controlled environments, sadism can fulfill the needs of both Doms and subs.
Sadism derives from the desire to cause pain. This desire and attraction to the altruistic or progressive nature of pain are considered good in the BDSM community. Doms may use the delivery of pain to relieve stress, work through trauma, or exercise control in a non-judgemental manner. Likewise, submissives may use pain to atone for what they feel are psychological sins, wrongdoings, as endorphin rushes, show loyalty to a Dom, and more.
Engaging in Sadism is highly personal and the desire, psychology, and attraction to sadistic play vary from person to person. Sadism without empathy or emotional connection is generally frowned upon. Delivering pain with no care or goal can point towards a psychological issue that needs further examination.
How to Safely Engage in Sadistic Play
Sadism can involve physical, psychological, and or emotional pain. The infliction of physical pain onto others is the most common fetish and proposes a wide range of activities that can be done. Physical sadism is the most common fetish associated with BDSM. These can range from lighter engagements like spanking and flogging to more extreme cases such as CBT, whipping, and caning.
- Like in all BDSM elements, consent is crucial in sadism.
- Communication and disclosure are required when it comes to sadistic play.
- A submissive entrusts a Dom to have their best interests in mind when it comes to sadistic play.
- When the submissive cannot communicate verbally, hand signals and/or other devices must be utilized.
- In a scene involving a fantasy of sadism from the top, care must be taken so that punishment doesn’t become abusive.
- For those who are new to sadism, it is important to gather knowledge and undergo training before fully participating in such activity.
- For preparation, anyone who is interested in sadism can either meet with people who are into BDSM relationships or watch online videos. Research is paramount to avoid abusive or negative behavior.
- Responsible sadists who are into the BDSM lifestyle fully understand the importance of consent.
- When any kind of sadistic play is part of a scene, be it mental, physical, or emotional, aftercare is paramount. This helps mitigate any potential long-lasting effects.
Related Practices and Fetishes
Sadism has many related fetishes and play types in BDSM. Pain Sluts are some of the most common players in sadistic scenarios. Impact play with canes, bullwhips, zippers, and electric instruments are very common in sadistic punishments. Public and private humiliation of submissives is also a form of sadism. If you are looking for a Sadistic dominatrix, many can be found on Whiplr Playground.