What is Polyamory?
Polyamory is defined as a romantic, emotional, or sexual relationship that includes more than two partners. Although the name may suggest otherwise, many polyamorous relationships are intimate and personal. Unlike monogamy, there is no set way to engage in polyamory. Polyamorous and other forms of open relationships are increasingly common in the BDSM and alternative sexuality communities.
Etymology & Examples of Polyamory
The word “polyamory” is derived from English and Latin. “Poly”= many and “amor” =love.
Many cultures throughout history have a history of polyamory. From the Harems of
ancient Arabia to the more recent practice of polygamy associated with some sects of Mormonism.
Polyamory as a BDSM and fetish practice has been around for centuries. Some practices include dating others while being committed to only one person, love dynamics between certain groups, or thrupples a monogamous relationship with three members. Polyamarous relationships can be merely sexual, while others are also or exclusively emotional, or have one submissive loving and serving multiple masters.
Polyamorous relationship rely on communication and the setting of clear boundries.
Many that engage in polyamorous dynamics often lay down rules to ensure honesty and consent. Although rules might be set, these do not interfere with the relationships from growing. Quite the opposite, like with many BDSM practices, clear boundaries improve intimacy, understanding, and trust between the relationship’s members.
With the advent of online dating polyamory has become more accepted and prevalent in the mainstream culture.
The Dos and Don’ts of Polyamory
- Set clear rules and boundaries of what you’re comfortable with.
- Boundaries vary greatly from individual to individual, between groups, or even for the same person in multiple dynamics.
- Honesty among partners is crucial.
- Lay out ground rules, expectations, and hard limits.
- Polyamorous relationships are not limited to Doms, subs, tops, or bottoms. There can be one master for many slaves or vice versa.
Since polyamory refers to a relationship’s dynamic rather than a fetish, it can take form in many aspects of BDSM. Group sex, orgies, or free playing in a dungeon can fall under polyamory. There are many polyamorous couplings in the swinging scene as well. Gangbangs and group scenes are not considered a polyamorous relationship but may have polyamrous people participating in.