What is a “House”?
In BDSM terminology, House refers to a group of BDSM community members working together towards achieving a shared objective. Often times, forming a distinct group identity is also among the desired end-goals of a collaborative BDSM effort.
Individuals who work together to create a unified identity in the BDSM community often make use of the title “The House Of” before their designated or chosen group name.
The term “House” is also applicable to refer to a number of other practices and concepts related to BDSM. The use of this term was patterned after the use of the word “family” in the leather family. In a “leather family”, the members are composed of D/s and M/s. Dominants often are the ones who take on the role of heading the family or household.
House in BDSM may also refer to a Dungeon house, where BDSM equipment is stored and play parties are held. Houses foster a sense of community, inspire discussion, and help a local community grow. Due to the subversive or counter-culture nature of BDSM, it provides a safe space for people to grow, learn, and connect.
Dos and Don’ts
Forming a house is a great way for BDSM players to share their interests and kinks. It provides players with a source of comfort and belongingness that is very essential in creating and making possible a healthy relationship dynamic with fellow BDSM enthusiasts.
Houses serve as a guiding force especially for individuals who are fairly new to all the acts, rules and fetishes involved in practicing bondage and S&M.
More importantly, houses should function as an avenue where players are free to explore their preferences and choices whether they are a Dom or a sub.
Related Practices & Fetishes
Play parties are social gatherings specifically organized for members of the BDSM community. They can be done in or outside the confines of a house community.