What is Dacryphilia?
Dacryphilia is a form of a sexual paraphilia or fetish wherein a person is aroused by seeing another person crying or in tears, though the term may also refer to pleasure one experiences by their own crying.
Dacryphilia includes all forms of tearfulness. It can be sadistic as some dacryphiles are turned on by controlling another person during sexual activity. They might enjoy making their partners cry, either by physical or emotional discomfort.
It can also be voyeuristic. Some people are turned on by watching other people cry or become emotional which is called “passive dacryphilia.” In some cases, people are aroused by watching someone cry during sex.
It is common during BDSM scenes for submissives to cry. This can be from pain, pleasure, emotions, or cathartic release from the activities involved. Many women cry after intense orgasms or pleasure, simply due to the endorphins and intense release of chemicals in the brain.
Dos, Don’ts & Tips
Dacryphilia is far more complicated than just becoming aroused from one’s crying. The reason for crying does matter to those who find it arousing. It does not always influence arousal but more often than not, a practitioner is aroused by humiliating someone until they cry, or sometimes they can even derive pleasure from crying themselves. For others, they’ll get turned-on only if crying is a result of a sexual act or something that has happened during sex. Others may enjoy seeing tears or hearing sobs. Dacryphilia is both male and female fetish.
Related Practices & Fetishes
Based on studies, there are three distinct areas related to dacryphilia:
- Compassion- people who enjoy or are aroused by comforting somebody who’s crying.
- Dominance/submission- When a person makes a submissive partner cry or is made to cry by a consenting dominant.
- Curled lips- people who enjoy seeing people cry while their bottom lips are protruding.