What is a “D/s Dom/Sub”?
A D/S (Dom/Sub) refers to the term used to represent the existing relationship between players in a BDSM setup. The ‘D’ stands for Dominance while the ‘S’ stands for Submission.
Dominance holds the authority in the relationship and it can encompass physical, emotional and psychological control.
Female doms are called ‘Dominatrix’ or ‘Mistress’. Male doms are called ‘Dom’, or ‘Master’. Subs are otherwise referred to as ‘Bottoms’ or ‘Slaves’, regardless of their gender. At times, their doms may also assign a particular term or pet name for them.
Psychology & Dynamics
Submissive and dominant relationships are pleasurable for some individuals because of the therapeutic escape brought by relinquishing authority and responsibility. Some subs take on large amounts of stresses in life, and therefore find solace when giving up power and control to their Dominant counterparts.
Others relate the erotic pleasure in submission to the safety and protection experienced in a more sheltered childhood. The thought of being brought back to secure memory and stage in life brings about a heightened sense of satisfaction and contentment.
On the other hand, dominance or playing a more dominant role in a sexual setting means finding satisfaction in acquiring control and power. It could be that, contrary to the emotional and psychological driving forces behind the pleasure of submission, dominance helps individuals assert more power and authority over things that they normally have trouble controlling. This allows Doms to establish more freedom in organizing a situation as they see fit. Additionally, it may also be a reflection of things that they wish they had more power and opinion over in real life, but struggle to be more assertive with especially in a more social and public setting.
Practicality/Do’s and Dont’s
Setting and recognizing boundaries are what makes Dom/Sub relationships harmonious and effective for the partners involved. Safe words and other systems can be adapted in order to establish certain rules and limitations that both parties have agreed upon.
Dominance over another individual must always come with consent. If a Dom tries to take control of a person without consent, then it is considered as illegal.
Related Practices & Fetishes
Contracts and consensuality play a huge role in making a Dom/Sub relationship dynamic work. Although the sub consents to the authority of a dominant partner, protecting the safety of both parties is vital. This is to ensure that boundaries are duly recognized and sexual acts are exercised with the security and enjoyment of both in mind.
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