The person being controlled in a BDSM scene. A submissive, or sub relinquishes control to their dominant partner. A submissive person gains sexual gratification by giving up control and enjoys having someone else call the shots for them. Moreover, some submissives relish the idea of having someone else make them do something they won’t normally do, such as exhibit their body in public. Submissives rely on the dominant to fulfill their innermost fantasies of being used and abused.
As part of a consensual scene, a submissive might find themselves in situations that involve humiliation and degradation. To ensure that these are actions that the submissive ultimately want, partners will often set up a safe word that will stop the scene when a dominant takes things too far.
Another term for a submissive. Originally used to describe the person on the receiving end of penetration during gay sex. However, in the context of BDSM, the term doesn’t necessarily imply penetration.