What is Humiliation?
Humiliation is a common theme and even it’s own fetish inside the world of BDSM and sexual subcultures. Humiliation is defined as a loss of or blow to one’s pride, which creates mortification, embarrassment, forced humility, and often leads to lowliness or submission. In everyday life, most people try to avoid humiliate, even those who would normally be aroused by it in the confines of a sexual encounter, but it can be an extremely powerful and cathartic experience within a session. Humiliation is not limited to a particular act or action and is generally extremely personal to the one being humiliated.
Because humiliation is such a personal thing it ranges greatly and in a session can manifest itself in many ways. It can be used along the lines of reverse psychology to motivate a submissive to work harder to please their dominant. Humiliation can be used in conjunction with a particular fetish, for example, a female Dominatrix who is a size queen punishing her male sub for having a penis that is too small. Ultimately humiliation is used as a tool by a Dom in their arsenal of ways to submit a partner and punish them or encourage them towards a reward.
The psychological aspects and repercussions of humiliation are incredibly intense, often triggering deep emotions within a sub. Many Dom’s do specialize in particular forms of humiliation that also appeal to or satisfy them, which are again usually highly personal. Often humiliation play is combined with other aspects of BDSM that include punishments like impact play, forced pleasure or withholding of it, and has even taken on political significance due to the republican alt right party adopting the word cuckold or “cuck” as a derisive term.
Humiliation play is often and should almost always be followed by aftercare for the submissive. If not properly addressed this could lead to intense negative psychological repercussions later on. As with many forms of Dominant and submissive play, keeping the humiliation confined to a session and encouraging one’s sub afterward is considered the safest form of expressing & living out these desires.