What is consent?
Consent is defined as giving and receiving permission to do ‘something.’ When it comes to the context of sex, BDSM, or fetishism an act of consent can vary wildly but it is of the utmost importance. Lack of consent has been a huge topic in relation to sex in the past several decades with many campaigns for it drawing worldwide attention, both positively and negatively. A lack of consent in a sexual situation is generally defined as rape or sexual assault.
While consent can be given, it can also be revoked during a session and should always be respected. While consent should be a simple topic and concept to grasp, many people struggle with the concept and nuances of it.
Whether a sexual participant is in a one on one or group encounter, obtaining consent from all involved should be a priority. Consent in BDSM also applies to things that are not explicitly regarded as sexual in nature. If a session involves only physical punishment or impact play, consent and discussion should be had prior to the act on what is and is not acceptable. For long term or more familiar partners, there is often implied consent around various acts, so permission does not have to be granted on a session by session basis. Often partners will check in, whether in a BDSM situation or vanilla and reobtain or reaffirm consent before moving from one act or action to another.
Consent is one of the most important cornerstones of sex and sexuality, no matter what kind of sex you are involved in. Obtaining and giving consent are sacred and should always be respected. If you are engaging in sex acts where one or more partners is unable to give consent verbally [due to gags or other implements restricting speech] one should obtain consent beforehand and establish safe words or signals, such as series of noises and head movements. if consent is withdrawn or attention is needed. K
This viral video attempts to explain consent in the context of offering someone tea.