What is a Collar?
In the BDSM lifestyle, a collar is an accessory that is made of many different materials and worn around the neck. This is most commonly used to point out an individual’s submissive and/or slave position in a BDSM relationship.
Collars are the most common piece of BDSM fashion or accessories. They generally serve one or more purposes:
- To denote the wearer is a submissive.
- To show one is possessed by or committed to a Dom.
- For use in bondage play, pet play, or to be otherwise attached to a rope, chain, or leash.
- Specialized ones, such as posture collars, serve to train or otherwise punish a submissive.
The materials used to make collars, as well as the designs, vary. Some of the most commonly used materials are leather, metal, plastic, lace, ribbon, and chain. Many have rings or room for attachments depending on the style of play a user will be engaging in.
The giving of a collar to a submissive by a Dom is considered sacred and intimate. Many people in committed or lifestyle relationships wear them outside of the bedroom as well. It can be the one they use during play or a more simple or fashionable version. This serves to remind the submissive of their Dominant or master at all times.
Dos and Don’ts
Like any other piece of clothing, a collar should be kept clean and washed at all times. When wearing a collar, one must ensure that it is not worn too tightly as it may restrict blood or oxygen flow. This could cause a submissive to lose consciousness which isn’t safe. When collars are used in bondage and made of a harder material you must be careful not to pull on it too harshly. This could break or cut the skin, or leave abrasions or bruises on the submissive.
Related Practices and Fetishes
Collaring and collaring ceremonies are a sacred part of BDSM. This is a formal showing of commitment between a Dom & sub, to a group or community.