What is “Aftercare”?
Aftercare in BDSM is the attention given to players or partners after an intense round of sexual pleasure. The goal of after care is to provide proper care for individuals who endured extreme stimulation during BDSM play.
Before engaging in any form of BDSM play, all involved parties have pre-negotiations. This establishes mutual consent, safewords, and good boundaries. Aftercare is a reaffirmation of the limitations agreed upon. It is also a way for partners to communicate how the overall experience was for them and make sure that both are able to stay grounded once their fantasies are successfully fulfilled. In other words, it covers the physical, mental and emotional well-being of BDSM players.
Practicing aftercare once every BDSM or bondage play is completed shows the need for partners to slow down after every intense sexual stimulation or encounter. It allows the body to regain composure and heal.
Practicality/Do’s and Dont’s
BDSM aftercare is not as simple as it sounds. Sex therapists explain that after-care may take on different forms. It will always depend on the type of sexual act performed by the couple or partners. In some cases, extended care options are also required.
The usual step-by-step processes that need to be fulfilled in BDSM aftercare include:
- Taking off BDSM accessories/gear
- Allowing the sub or bottom to take rest on a warm and soft cushion
- Performing first aid to any acquired or inflicted injuries during play
- Taking the needed supplements and vitamins
- Wrapping a towel or blanket around if body temperature drops
- Embracing, cuddling and providing gentle caresses
- Offering water, food and or other treats
- Discussing the experience
Keeping an eye out for sub/dom drops is important. The symptoms include irritability, anxiety, guilt, sadness and/or feelings of worthlessness, loss or spike in appetite, physical ailments that cannot be alleviated with medication, change in sleep cycle, and suicidal tendencies.
Related Practices & Fetishes
At times, babysitting the players and After-after care might be needed as additional post-session care. This may happen when the dom is unable to provide full attention and care to the sub. It may also be possible if one or more signs of sub/dom drop are observed.
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