DEAR DEIDRE: NOW I can no longer keep an erection, I am so ashamed I have even considered ending my life.
My wife left me because she says I must no longer find her a turn-on or else I wouldn’t go soft during sex.
This has been a problem since I had a heart attack two years ago. I am 50 and I am on blood-thinning medication and beta-blockers for life.
I can sometimes get stiff when aroused but it only lasts a minute or two and having sex properly is impossible. I really want to have full sex but it gets so difficult and I can’t perform.
I have wondered about trying Viagra but have not had the courage to ask for help, as I feel it is emasculating.
I cannot take any more and I think I would rather be dead.
first cutCaught my girl in bed with another man... then he did something I didn't expect
SEX WITH SISTERI had sex with my sister and now we are having a full-on relationship
HOTEL HELLMy girl's wild step-sister seduced me in toilets and I'm disgusted with myself
Little secretMy brother-in-law is my daughter's real father... and my husband has no idea
More, more, more!Hot romps with sex-on-legs housemate always leaves me wanting more
FAMILY AFFAIRFamily are furious over my hot sex with brother's sister in law
Guilty sexI had hot sex with my 53-year-old mum-in-law while my wife was on life support
BlackmailedI've been bedding my 'uncle' and now his son is blackmailing me into having sex
anti-climaxLove my girlfriend, but find I get more pleasure from porn than sex with her
FESTI-FAILI had hot sex at Glastonbury... but I was the 20th guy she'd bedded that weekend
DEIDRE SAYS: Please don’t think about ending it all. What you describe is a very common problem with the kind of medication you are on.
Talk to your doctor, who will not be at all surprised by your story.
Ask him to check whether you are suitable for Viagra or a similar medication.
Tell your wife that your erection difficulties were no reflection of lack of love and desire for her – if that is true, of course.
If you have extra-low moments, Samaritans are there for you 24/7 (samaritans.org, 116 123).
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